What I could say is that nobodys judgement should affect you, or if you judge someone for something, you shouldnt expect them to be offended or change.
I really do hate to judge people for anything, I feel stupid, its their lives.
But what about when its your friends? I suppose it could be considered as ‘judging them’ for things theyre doing, but what if its because you genuinely care? What if its because youre sure the choices theyre making, the things theyre doing, the way theyre presenting themselves are perhaps not what they really want or not whats best for them in the long run?
There are plenty of people I’m not friends with because of their choices. Doesnt mean they have to stop, just means we should comfortably and happily realise were not compatible as friends because of you cant respect each other and each others decisions it will never work.
But what happens when your current friends start making more and more decisions like those people you didnt like? It may be choices that ultimately dont effect you, but they still become an aspect of your friends personality. I cant respect what I consider self destructive behaviour. I cant respect disrespect. Regardless of whether its to others or only to yourself.
Everyone says you shouldnt care how people live their lives, but these are my friends. Of course I care. But what do I do about that? I dont want to be the one who says I think youre drinking too much, I think youre fucking people because youre sad inside, I think youre avoiding everyone to avoid your problems.
Where is the line between coming off as a judgemental ass who wants their friends to change so I can stop feeling wierd about shit they do, and just telling them to be a good friend?
I dont even know if my intentions are good. According to my morals, theyre making wrong choices, I want to help them. But who am I to say their choices are wrong. Maybe they just want to be like that and im an oversensitive judgemental fuck.
I dont understand anything.